The main issue here is that every adult as an individual takes responsibility for his own life and the upbringing of his children. Responsibility for own life is the foundation of liberty and freedom. It means also that I am willing to deal with my own problems. Far too many people blame others for their problems. It is true that often the difficulties we face aren't ones own fault, e.g.: when someone uses force on another. Each individuals strength is to be ready to deal with the problem. Search for help if needed, but do not sit around and wait for others to solve it. And to remember that each individual has the power to make a difference in our world.